“Try” versus “Do”

So I finally got it.   I am an avid reader and researcher of tips, phrases, thought processes, etc. that will help me be better at what I do in life.   But for years I did not get it.   My best buddy “Rick” joked about it all the time.   I had heard him chastise his co-workers as well as children for saying “I’ll try.”  Can you imagine that?   What kind of guy chastises his kids for saying “I’ll try?”   What devil of a man does that?  A smart one!  Too bad I missed it for so long.

This post is a quick one that I hope will help those of you that have missed it take this mentality and use it to drive you to new levels.  (read more on Goal Setting here) Some of you might certainly have gotten it before, or might have stumbled some of the material out there that teaches this same concept.   So what is the concept?

Simple:  The word “try” is a failure word.  It allows you to have a failure plan versus accomplishment plan. 

 

Imagine the difference to this hard corps competitor if he had said I'll "try" to practice this week versus I "will" practice.

Imagine the difference to this hard corps competitor if he had said I’ll “try” to practice this week versus I “will” practice.

Why do we use the word “try” and do this to ourselves?   Because is easier that way.   Saying “try” and failing has become a noble thing in our society, as it implies that you put forth effort.

But, imagine the difference of “try” versus “do” if you applied it to a situation where you were standing next to a one thousand foot drop off into a chasm filled with molten lava.  “I’ll try not to fall off this edge.”  vs. “I’m not falling off this edge.”  Which one would you pick?  I know which one means more to me!

Ok, so is this all semantics?   Did I just decide to play on words in a cute little blog post?   I think not.   I think a “will do” attitude driven by verbal statements might have made a big difference in what I might have accomplished over the years.

Here’s my example:  Recently I read about a great leader (big company CEO) that decided he would make his bed first thing upon rising no matter what to help his wife out and set the day in a positive tone.   The leader went to great lengths to make this happen.  For whatever reason I decided to do the same.   Not for a wife or anyone else, but because I wanted to start my day out with a solid action that might help set the tone.   In the past I had typically made my bed when I had time, but I did not do it concisely each morning upon rising.   I didn’t realize the implication at the time, but when I decided to make a change I told myself: “I will make my bed each day upon rising.”   I did not say, “I’ll try to make my bed each day upon rising.”   And guess what….I have not missed it one time.

I believe that the act of saying “I’ll do” sets into action some phycological processes that increase your chance of actually accomplishing what you set your mind on.   The “do” mentality sets a different tone in the brain and it begins to focus on accomplishing exactly what you stated, simply because failure is not an option at that point….because you decided to do.

So what if you are wrong and miss the mark?   It’s okay!   Being wrong is okay.   The world will not stop spinning.

That was my fear, and I believe the reason why it was easy for me to say “try.”  It meant that if I did not meet the goal I would be fine because I had not lied when I said “try.”   But it made it easier to miss the goal.   Missing goals I had set was bothersome, but was survivable.  Why?  Because all I really said was that I would “try” to do XX.   I gave myself an out!

Saying what you are going to do on the other hand is really scary, and when you miss the mark it can be painful.   It hurts us where we are the most vulnerable, our ego.   I truthfully believe that I missed more than one goal due to the mentality of “trying.”   Time to change!

If you have read this far, then I want you to change with me.   Here are our steps:

  1. Select goals wisely- because once they are set it will be impossible not to do the work to meet them if….
  2. We state our intentions by using “do” type action words.   We will forever say what we WILL do, and set actions in place to accomplish that target.
  3. We will believe with our heart and everything we possess that we will meet that goal, no matter how large or small.
  4. Lastly, in the rare case we miss our mark (very rare if we state our intentions with conviction), most likely from circumstances that really are out of our control, we will:
    1. Forgive ourselves
    2. Re-prioritize/refocus/reset the goal
    3. And drive on with the same mentality of “do” versus “try” with one hundred times more intensity than before!

Imagine some applications:

  • I will win my first club match in the next six months.
  • I am going to win my state multi-gun match this year.
  • I will train my defensive handgun skills twice a week, no matter what.
  • I’m going to handle my defensive handgun and dry fire a minimum of three times weekly for 15 minutes over the winter months.
  • I will change my diet and I will exercise five days per week no matter where I am or what I am doing.
  • Effective immediately I will not drink sugar filled unhealthy beverages, ever.
  • I will completely empty my inbox and action those emails every single day before I stop working.
  • I will meditate, re-center and focus every day for 10 minutes.
  • I will read something educational every day, six days a week for 30 minutes.
  • I will save  and invest 10% of my income every single month.
  • I will tell my loved ones that I love them, and truly appreciate them every single morning and night before I go to sleep.

Ok, so what are some of my “do” items?

  • I will complete the rough manuscript and have print ready, my newest book “The Art of Instruction – Your Complete Guide to Instructional Excellence” by Oct 31, 2014.
  • I will finalize the newest training program  and rough manuscript in my second big project “Your Defensive Rifle Training Program” by December 31, 2014.
  • I will post one high quality shooting or motivational blog post every other week or twice a month at a minimum.
  • This coming week, I am going to win my division at the I.D.P.A. Nationals.
  • I will launch my newest educational project, the American Warrior Society, in February or 2015 (or earlier).

There you have it, some major commitments from me.   What are yours?

Until Then – Train Hard!

Mike S.

Train Fast to Get Fast

Watch this video and tell me if you think I was going “slow and smooth” or if I simply pushed and tried to go fast.   Triple Nickel

Now, I would guess most of you might guess that I was trying to go fast.  In addition, I had a shot I pushed slightly over the head because I pushing as hard as I could go and trying to find a speed where I could get hits and break the Triple Nickel record.   Granted, I have trained to the point where I can safely and successfully push to that speed, but I did not get it by simply trying to be smooth.   Being smooth (and subsequently fast) is a byproduct of training repetitions.   That said, the speed with which you train is the speed you will perform (does that make sense?).

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I posted a video on Instagram the other day which also gets linked automatically to Facebook.   The video was of a steel stage that I shot during a recent Chatanika, Alaska at a steel match.

View the stage here:  Chatanika Ironman Stage

My reason for posting was because I have continued to hear the same thing over and over again posted online, a phrase that goes something like this:   “slow is smooth and smooth is fast.”  I wanted to make the point that smooth was a byproduct of great skill, not something to be specifically practiced.   Meaning, when I practice I do not simply try to become smooth.   I work on mastering the skill, which in the end looks smooth and is likely very fast.

This particular article is an expanded list of the concepts of that I was trying to get across in my original post, which of course was way to short to actually get my point across.  The post was well received, but after posting I got multiple comments some in agreement and others in disagreement trying to argue a point.  It became obvious that those arguing might misunderstand my point, and I felt like I had something to offer for those that want to learn something.

While I am not one who is in the habit of getting into “internet” arguments (not worth my time), there are cases when I hope to be able to open someone’s mind to a different method of thinking and help them practice/shoot better.   It is my job, and in the case of this post, I hope to open some minds and guide those that might follow what I have to say.

First, in relation to performing any technique at speed, please understand this: there’s no argument with those of you that make the point that the basics must be practiced at a deliberate (some might say slow) pace first.  You are completely right, I agree.  As a full-time trainer now for almost 15 years, I, or anybody that instructs anything would be an idiot to say that the best way to practice is to perform the skill really fast before the technique is actually ingrained and learned.   That was not my point at all.  In addition, safety is key, so everything in this article falls within the normal safety guidelines, keep that in mind when you are trying to do anything fast.

My point is that after each of us get beyond that basic level with the technique, and it is somewhat ingrained

At some point we must simply begin to push our speed to the next level.   It will not come naturally.

At some point we must simply begin to push our speed to the next level. It will not come naturally.

correctly, we must strive to push ourselves to go faster if we choose to be able to perform the skill with any amount of speed.  Let me give you a little more background on this.   At one time some more midway in my career when I was already quite good I had another really good shooter give me some great advice.  This shooter who was considerably better than me at the time told me that I needed to push outside of my comfort zone and make myself go fast.  After his comment, I disagreed because I felt that control was everything, and being able to perform while completely in control meant everything to me.

But the reality was I never actually learned what my limits were!  I never pushed and reached my failure points.   I never actually tried to push the techniques that I was using (were talking about competitive context here) and perform them at my fastest speed.   So I decided to give it a shot in my practice sessions and at matches.   I worked hard and started to push myself.   What do you think happened?

I failed!!  But guess what, those failures and those mistakes started the learning process again! Remember I was already quite good at that time, but pushing and forcing myself to find my failure points caused me to find subtle areas that I could improve upon.

Failing caused me to design index points on key handgun manipulations like the draw process, were few small key index points allowed me to consistently draw my gun much faster than I had before.  After small changes, I could hit the gun as fast as I possibly could move my hands and arms and I still have a successful draw and first shot hit.

Pushing taught me to learn to operate as fast as I could go within the chaos of that speed.   It taught me to see faster.   It taught me to react faster.   It also taught me to adjust faster.   It simply made me faster!

Believe it or not your brain learns the pace and timing that you practice a technique.   I can’t tell you how many students I’ve had that heard and followed some old phrase like “smooth is fast” or something like that. When they come to my classes they’re incredibly smooth.  They’re very good shooters and can come out of the holster smoothly and present the gun to the target and get good hits, but guess what, they’re slow!

A full speed concealed draw process will be faster if you learn proper technique, then make yourself try to push that skill to the next level (in terms of speed).

A full speed concealed draw process will be faster if you learn proper technique, then make yourself try to push that skill to the next level (in terms of speed).

When I tell them to simply do what they’re doing the exact same way but try to go faster they begin to push and often gain 25% in speed almost immediately by simply having someone push them.  Then I give them subtle hints to improve their techniques and they jump another 5-10%.

Recently I gave a student in Chatanika, Alaska recently my own personal performance statement which was “Grip the gun, see the sights, be aggressive.”  Previously the performance statement he had copied (which was my old one) was “Grip the gun, see the sights.”

After the match and class we had together he told me that the new statement had become an epiphany to him.   His comment was “it’s amazing.. why didn’t you tell me that before!”  He said he believed he gained a second on each of the stages just by being aggressive.   Remember aggressive translates to trying to go fast.    To make yourself move your body aggressively is fast.

You may wonder why I did not give him the modified statement earlier, but the reason I hadn’t given him that specific performance statement before was because I didn’t use it myself.   I myself change my old statement to the new one when I discovered this secret.

My epiphany was when someone told me “Mike go faster” and it worked.   This caused me to learn to be aggressive each time I trained and competed.   My performance statement reminds me to always be aggressive, yet I maintain a level of control in train and constantly remind myself not to be so aggressive I’m not using good technique.   The key is to push to the edge and find out where it is!

Those of you that read this article and choose to take what I’m saying and apply it and try it will gain speed.  I guarantee it.   Those that choose to continue to say some old saying like slow is smooth and smooth is fast as blah blah blah blah blah will get just that.    You’ll continue to be slower then you can be so if to learned to push to the next level.   Trust me on this, I had to trust someone and you’ve got to trust me.

Be Safe – Be Aggressive – Give fast a shot

Until Then – Train Hard

Mike S.

Check out the Chatanika Ironman Steel Match

Chatanika Ironman (2012)

Chatanika Ironman (2012)

Hey shooters!  If you want to watch the process of a full match from start to finish, and my comments and tips, please check out my youtube page! I would love feedback and whether or not you want more of this!

https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCkg3VEVfSCmOTXzn7_tOLBg

 

Until Then- Train Hard!

Mike S.